When Walking Away Is Actually Moving Forward

The Weight of Negative Thoughts

Did you know that a 2020 study revealed we have an estimated 6,000 to 12,000 thoughts per day? Even more striking, 79–80% of those thoughts are negative. This reminds me of the many times I’ve caught myself saying, “We are our own worst critics,” when reassuring my clients. That study seems to prove the statement true. But how does unchecked negativity affect us? Let me share a recent experience with my own thoughts and feelings, ones that shaped my identity for far too long.

Living Under the Label of “Quitter”

For much of my life, I looked back on times when I changed direction and labelled them as “quitting.” In the back of my mind, I always carried that belief. I had convinced myself that whenever someone stops something, unless they are retiring, injured, or see it through to the end, they are a quitter. So, I categorized myself this way for years. Because I put myself into that category and listened to voices that reinforced it, my other successes felt dimmed. Even the meaningful wins I achieved in recent years seemed underwhelming, simply because I let one negative thought poison my experiences.

A Shift in Perspective

It wasn’t until a recent conversation that the veil lifted and my perspective changed. Whenever I “quit” something, it was never because I was too weak, too tired, or too incapable. It was because, in the midst of the experience, I found clarity. I realized I wanted something different or better for myself. I never quit striving to be my best. I only stopped when I recognized there was a better path to follow. My ambition never changed, only my actions did. The truth is, we are meant to evolve and discover new paths as we grow.

Defining the Difference

So, what is quitting, really? Quitting is the abandonment of an activity, relationship, or pursuit with no intention of redirecting that effort elsewhere. It is often fueled by fatigue, frustration, or lack of progress. In contrast, realignment means stepping back to reassess priorities. It is adjusting direction based on self-awareness and a long-term vision. Realignment signifies growth and adaptability. It keeps passion alive while shifting its expression.

Choosing Realignment Over Fear

If I hadn’t labelled myself a quitter for so long, I would have faced challenges with far more ease. My inner voice would have been kinder, and the fear of failure wouldn’t have consumed me. I could have moved through difficulties with focus, without constant self-doubt. That is how negativity spreads, like a weed. Remember, the difference between quitting and realignment is intention. Transitioning into a new phase is not failure; it is a necessary step for growth.

“Better to admit you walked through the wrong door than to spend your life in the wrong room.” -Unknown

The next chapter of your story begins when you stop carrying the weight of labels that no longer serve you. If you’re ready to rewrite the way you see your choices, book a call with me or one of our coaches at www.masterathletic.com. Together, we’ll turn realignment into progress.

Amber White

Coach, Master Athletic Performance